But we are, right? Sometimes even taking the tiniest, teensiest, baby steps, feels more like scaling the Grand Canyon than making a small change. We get sidetracked by the overall goal and forget to honor ourselves for the little things we do everyday to affect change.
The trick here is to focus on one step at a time and not get overwhelmed with all the details, possible outcomes, and expectations.
But it’s not so easy, is it?
When I say, “focus on one step at a time,” what I mean is, devote your full attention to the current (tiny) task at hand. Let’s say you have a really hard time saving money but you want to take a vacation that will cost $5000. Instead of focusing on the total amount you wish to save – which can be totally overwhelming – and the fact that you are “horrible at saving money,” just start by placing whatever cash you have in your purse, wallet, or pocket every Friday in a jar or envelope. (I actually like to use an old Altoids tin.) Don’t count it, just put it in. At the end of each month, allow yourself a few minutes to calculate how much you’ve saved. Pat yourself on the back for a job well done and then move on. You’ll find that without focusing on the goal, you will eventually get there – probably quicker than if you had obsessed about it every day and done nothing but focus on your poor saving skills. You may even find that you put money in on Wednesday, too.
Because that one act of putting a dollar in an envelope reinforces your desire to save money and reminds the Universe that you are willing to change which then attracts positive energy and support for the change you are trying to make which then makes it even easier to change.
Phew! That’s a mind-bender. But I hope you can see my point.
The same advice is true whether you are trying to get sober, heal from an abusive relationship, or become a more confident person. It’s all the tiny little actions that add up to the major change.
Don’t be afraid. You can do it!