It Has to Start With You

Build-a-stone-path-smWe are what we think and speak. If we want to have a happy life then it is up to us to examine our lives and see where we are not happy and why.

Until you have learned to concentrate, you cannot change. You have to be in the present moment. That’s the only time you can truly be the observer and make better choices, decisions and change patterns that you unconsciously do, keeping you stuck.

Our natural state of being is to be happy, but we constantly sabotage ourselves by continually concentrating on illusion – what we think is happening and what we think we are doing. Because we are accepting illusion as reality we project our thoughts, fears, lack and disconnect as our reality, creating disappointment and lack.

We speak words of love, connection and wholeness of being. But when it comes down to living those beliefs, very few of actually follow that course.

We recognize what is good, what will make us happy, loving and compassionate, but we can’t hold the thought long enough to create it in our own reality. We speak or think the words of love and compassion, but we don’t act on those thoughts. We approve of it, then our next thought is, “Wouldn’t it be nice if the world was really like this?” never taking it into our own self, our own belief and practicing it. We always think the other person should change.

It’s one thing to think it; it’s quite another to live the change by making the effort to change. Many continue to stay in the same pattern of behavior and belief, but it has to start with you.

Discovering Your Intuition

inner-voiceEveryone has an intuitive side, most people just aren’t encouraged to develop it.

But in my family we were and I come from a long line of Psychics.

I got my first fortune telling tools when I was nine, a set of Chinese Chi Sticks. I was encouraged to use them all the time. By the time I was 10 I was reading cards. My mother would write down what I felt, saw, or perceived, date it and then wait to see what happened. I was right on a lot of the time, but because I was young I didn’t always know what I saw.

There are several different ways you can perceive:

  • clairtangency (clear touching or more commonly, psychometry)
  • claircognizance (clear knowing or psychic knowing)
  • clairgustance (clear tasting or psychic tasting)
  • clairalience (clear smelling or psychic smelling, sometimes also called clairscent)
  • clairvoyance (clear seeing, or psychic vision)
  • clairaudience (clear hearing, or psychic hearing)
  • clairsentience (clear feeling/sensing or psychic feeling/sensing, including clairempathy)

You can start developing your awareness by keeping a journal with the information you receive or perceive with the date and time. Another way to practice is to ask someone to put a picture in an envelope and seal it. Then you hold it and see what information you get. This is an easy, fun way to practice. A third way to develop your intuition is to write down a question, then grab a book while thinking about that question. Open the book and run your finger down the page with your eyes closed and when you “feel” right about stopping, open your eyes and read the sentence. You might be surprised how accurate you can be.

You have to learn to trust yourself and remain open to the outcome. As you work on this you well start understanding the way you perceive. Good luck and have fun with it.

By the way I never recommend the Oja board, it is to easy to manipulate and can invite bad juju.

Being a Counselor/Psychic

Flowers-Pink-In-The-Mountain-WallpaperI am a good listener. In fact, that’s one of the reasons I became a therapist. But I’m also a psychic and my main goal is to help people become the most fulfilled person they can become.

Often, when I am “out in the public”, people will begin to tell me how confused, angry, hurt, or upset they are about a relationship, their job, or specific person. It must be a vibe I have, but it never fails – people will just start telling me their life story without any prompting.  They tell me they don’t understand what’s going on, or that life seems to have swirled out of control. Or the biggie, “Why is this happening to me again?”

They continue expressing their fear, confusion, and share how they constantly feel overwhelmed. Sometimes they will even share that they don’t feel that good about themselves, or that they’ve made some “bad” decisions. Then they ask me what I do for a living and when they find out, all of a sudden they realize who they are talking to and make a hasty retreat. They get nervous because they think that I can read their mind, or are using my special therapist tricks to see what an awful person they really are.

People are so afraid that if they talk to a therapist, they’ll find out that all the bad things in their life are their fault or that the negative thoughts they have about themselves are actually true.

But going to a therapist is like going to a mechanic. If your car is acting up and you can’t figure out what is wrong with it, don’t you take it to an expert in that field? Or do you get in and hope that it won’t break down and still gets you where you need to go? Someone that works on cars all the time has a clue about what is wrong and knows how to fix it.

The same thing happens in life, so why not go to someone who can help you find the problem?

Don’t be afraid of a counselor. Their job is to help you figure out what’s going on in your life and how to work through the situations you’re facing. It’s like someone handing you a road map that makes life so much easier.

Therapy isn’t about judgement or blame. Sometimes people think that what they have done or said was horrible and awful. But by expressing those things that have been held in so long and sharing them with someone who is a good listener, the burden is lightened and you feel free-er.

Because you’re really not as bad as you think you are.



Grieving is a Process


Aristotle and I on one of our walks.

Some of you may have noticed that I have not been posting for a few weeks.

That’s because in early March, I lost a very important companion, my best friend. Aristotle, my Australian Border Collie mix died very suddenly and Dover Cat and I were in shock and devastated.

It hurts so much when someone you know turns into someone you knew. (And Aristotle was a someone, not something. He was so much more to me than just a dog.)

I wish to thank my daughter, Heather for dropping everything and driving eight hours to be with me. My son, Joel, tried to comfort me but had a hard time of it and couldn’t talk about it for a while. (He’s a dog whisperer and loved Aristotle as much as I did.) He did check in periodically, though to make sure I was okay. And my brother, Thom, and his family sent flowers. Thanks Marie, they were beautiful.

Each of them held the space for me to grieve. I also received lots of sympathy cards and wishes from our friends. Thank you. It helped.

Dover, my cat and Aristotle’s best friend, was at a loss too. He took up the responsibility of helping me move on. The three of us had a routine and we would walk in the afternoon. After four days without a walk, Dover insisted we go and he stopped at all of the spots that Aristotle used to stop.

Dover the cat

Dover Cat

But perhaps the best gift was that fact that no one judged me for the amount of time it took me to come out of my funk. Even though people knew he was my dog, they understood. People understood.

It’s not for us to judge how long it takes to grieve, but to give yourself and others the space to grieve. Because the capacity to acknowledge loss is as much a part of us as the capacity to love.

Thank you.

Suggested Spiritual Reading

BookshelfI am constantly being asked, “What is a good book I can read to help me along my path of self-discovery?”

Each of us is a totally different person seeking the same information. The trick is to find a guide, teacher, or some other type of help that well guide you on your path. We all have different ways of growing. I think that is why the Universe provides some many teachers, books, and unexpected help from our guides. There are all sorts of books out there that speak to the individual you are.

I suggest going to a book store and taking some time to read a bit and choose the information or book that resonates to you. With that said here is a list of books I recommend for the beginning seeker in everyone:

Sanaya Roman has written a series of books with the help of her guide Orin. They include, “Living with Joy”, “Personal Power Through Awareness”, and “Soul Love”

Conversations with God: An Uncommon Dialogue (Book 1), by Neale Donald Walsch

The Celestine Prophecy, by James Redfield – this book is short but sweet. A nice starter book.

Like Sanaya Roman, John Randolph Price has written a bunch of books and I recommend anyone of them.

The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle – I’ve already mentioned what I like about these books, but basically Tolle has a gentle way of reminding us to stay in the present moment.

Hopefully, there are enough recommendations here to get you into a bookstore. I recommend you find yourself a great metaphysical, new age or alternative book store since they usually have a better selection.

Hope your adventure is an enlightening one!

Vibrational Levels

Vibrational LevelsIn the physical world, different rates of vibration result in different kinds of effects. But vibrations that are high on the physical plane are actually low on the spiritual plane. In the spiritual dimension, negative energy is a lower vibration because it is denser and heavier. Positive energy is a higher vibration because it is finer and lighter.

All negative energy makes you feel trapped and heavy. All positive energy makes you feel free and light. That is the difference between joy and grief, peace and stress, clarity and frustration. Positive emotions attract more positive emotions whereas negative emotions attract more negative emotions. Feeling positive will result in more good things happening to you while feeling negative will lead to more undesirable things happening.

Negative emotions are not necessarily bad. They are meant to help you to realize an action is either good for you or undesirable for you. For example, anger is felt when there is a need to handle something that is not working for you. Anger can be converted into well being through right action. Anxiety is felt when there is a need to protect something from being taken away. Anxiety can be converted into confidence.

Negative emotions can be converted into positive emotions through right thinking and acting.

The problem with negative emotions arises when they are handled immaturely; resulting in a regression from anger to depression or anxiety to avoidance. Depression and avoidance are emotional states that rob you of energy. Those are the true negative emotions that need to be acknowledged in order to know what we truly want and allow ourselves to act with our well-being in mind.

A white light energy is considered a very high level of energy. That’s is why you’ll hear people saying things like, “surround yourself in white light.” It is believed to be a protecting light while you are trying to figure out a situation or experience.

The Worrier

Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere. - English ProverbSome form of worrying is a common occurrence. But then there is the chronic worrier.

If you’re preoccupied with “what ifs” and worst-case scenarios, worry becomes a problem. Unrelenting doubts and fears can be paralyzing. They can sap your emotional energy, send your anxiety levels soaring, and interfere with your daily life. But chronic worrying is a mental habit that can be broken. You can train your brain to stay calm and look at life from a more positive perspective.

Do you believe your worry protects you or consumes you? Either way it keeps you stuck. You can’t move forward if you keep blocking yourself with worry. Here are some simple ways to release the worry:

  1. You can try keeping a log of your worries and re-read them at the end of the week. See how many of these worries were real.
  2. Try taking deep breaths and relax, taking in the moment. The very present moment.
  3. Once you have conquered the breathing try meditating, and staying in the present moment.
  4. Take a rubber band and put it on your wrist. Every time you begin to worry snap the rubber band and ask yourself how you are feeling right that very moment.

Most of the time worrying is a habit we have formed to keep us stuck and feeling safe. If we worry we don’t have to do anything about the situation. The problem with that is it keeps growing and gets worse then you worry.

It takes time to break the habit so be patient. You can break this trap if you work at it. It won’t be easy but you’ll feel better and more in control of your life.